The Peace and Happiness Adventure

As a holistic coach, I often come across clients who struggle with the belief of not being good enough. It’s a common issue that affects people from all walks of life, and it can be particularly challenging to overcome.

What is the belief of not being good enough? It’s the feeling that no matter what we do, we’re never good enough. It’s the belief that we’re not smart enough, talented enough, or attractive enough. It’s the fear of being judged, rejected, or criticised.

The problem with this belief is that it can lead to a lot of self-doubt, negative self-talk, and low self-esteem. It can also prevent us from pursuing our goals and dreams, and living the life we truly desire.

So, how can a holistic coach help someone overcome the belief of not being good enough? Here are a few strategies that I use with my clients:

1. Identify the root of the belief

The belief of not being good enough often stems from childhood experiences, such as criticism from parents, teachers, or peers. It’s essential to identify where this belief comes from so that we can understand it better and work on overcoming it.

Ask yourself where does this belief stem from? Why do you feel you are not good enough? What is the underlying fear here? It’s useful to get to the root of the issue in order to heal the wound.

2. Challenge negative self-talk

Negative self-talk can reinforce the belief of not being good enough.

As a holistic coach, I help my clients recognise and challenge their negative self-talk. We work on replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, and practicing self-compassion and self-love.

3. Focus on strengths

Perfectionism can contribute to the belief of not being good enough. As a holistic coach, I help my clients focus on their strengths rather than their weaknesses. We identify their unique talents, skills, and abilities, and work on developing them further.

4. Practice gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful tool for overcoming the belief of not being good enough. I encourage my clients to practice gratitude by focusing on what they have rather than what they don’t. We work on developing a daily gratitude practice, such as writing in a gratitude journal or expressing gratitude to others.

5. Embrace imperfection

Perfectionism can be a significant contributor to the belief of not being good enough. I help my clients embrace imperfection by letting go of the need for perfection. We work on developing a growth mindset, where mistakes are seen as opportunities for learning and growth.

In conclusion, the belief of not being good enough can be a significant obstacle to living a fulfilling life. However, with the help of a coach, it’s possible to overcome this belief and develop a more positive and empowering mindset. By identifying the root of the belief, challenging negative self-talk, focusing on strengths, practicing gratitude, and embracing imperfection, you can learn to feel more confident, self-assured, and worthy of everything you desire.

Ask yourself where do you feel it in your body? What is the belief protecting you from experiencing? In what way would you need to be vulnerable with the world if you didn’t have that belief? What could you achieve if you didn’t hold this belief?

Because when we are born into a world that requires us to do things based on its own standards, concept of life, and values, we then create beliefs that rejects who we originally were, (our truest sense of being and the way we do things, how we reason, how we express ourselves, behave, and so on) and we buy into the conditions in which we are born into, be it tradition, culture or societal expectations and then from learned experiences that we encounter later in life.

And this becomes our truth even though it’s not our authentic self and it stems from a distorted perspective view. Ultimately the feeling that we are not accepted as our true selves.